Sometimes I get insecure after saying (tweeting and.. Facebook-ing once) what I really feel. I did get replies to what I said, and I was terrified. I was terrified that I would get criticized and judged.
But everytime I do that, I convince myself that I’m not wrong; I might have faults in what I say, but I’m not wrong in expressing my views. When I further contemplated on my conviction, I realised that I didn’t need any conviction at all, and that I should not be afraid of criticism.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions. I don’t really believe that there is a non-biased argument because you need to have a point. Having a point sets you in the direction you want to go.
Having to balance out your argument with a counter only defeats your purpose of driving home your point.
However, one needs to consider the counter so that one won’t sound like an idiot. The relevancy of your rebuttal to the counter is the proof that you are right.
I don’t enjoy arguments (especially on social media) because crass attitudes can decide to twist logic into oxymoronic explanations that will only further aggravate me – or rather, the point I’m trying to emphasize or to raise awareness.
Be open. I’ve started to tell myself that whenever I feel insecure. “There is a reason why you said that,” I thought, “don’t falter and be brave.”
After all, making mistakes is the best way to learn. Accept it if I’m wrong, discreetly enjoy if I’m right. There is no point rubbing salt in another one’s wounds. I still don’t get money in my bank because I’m not a lawyer.